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How to Release Your Pain

A while back I wrote a post called "You Can Have It All." It was the first time I believed that life could be joyous and bountiful and not riddled with one drama after the other. I believed it but didn’t see it manifest for long periods of time in my life. After listening to The Power of Now by Eckhart Tolle, I paid special attention to the chapter that talks about how we grow accustomed to attaching to our “pain body.” In other words we develop patterns in life and expect certain things to happen. I secretly believed that I always had to be dealing with one major drama and that life didn’t flow smoothly for extended periods for anyone or me.

Then I had an epiphany of awareness as many pieces of the puzzle came together for me. I realized that pains entered my life, as in times when I have been sick, lost a job or a relationship, all happened when everything was going smoothly. I remember having a drama occur in the fall, and the first thing I told my brother was, “It was like it knew I was happy.” Now I see that I am so used to associating with pain or drama in my life that I don’t know how to feel and act without one, so my subconscious responds and makes me sick or messes up some other part of my life to maintain drama in my life. It’s a form of self-abuse.

Now that I am able to be a witness of myself and tune into my intuition, I am finally learning to engage in the ongoing process of disassociating myself from a “pain body” and drama in my life. I can see from my past the many times I’ve chosen bad men to keep drama in my life. I’ve had years of job drama during the most recent recession, and I finally attracted a job to my life that I love, where I feel happy and content.

My health has been going well, and I’ve even learned separate from drama instigating doctors that choose to instill fear in you as a medicine. Now, that I know all things are in the right flow, and I’m more centered with self, my true self doesn’t really know how to react or respond because it has never felt separation from the outside, drama and the “pain body” before. Now. I’m experiencing it for the first time, and it’s like my subconscious is getting nauseous to keep me in a negative life pattern because it is all it knows.

I feel grateful to be able to recognize it, so I can embrace my life in all of its peace and beauty and bask in the wonderfulness of it. I can feel the growing essence of freedom entering my life. Life can be peaceful. You and I can have it all and not be punished for it either outwardly or inwardly.

Release attachment to your pain and free yourself because you can!

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A Daily Meditation Mantra Practice

When I first learned The Secret a year ago, I was encouraged to begin a daily meditation practice. I had never meditated, so I started with just three minutes a day. I didn't know how to meditate, so I began by taking a suggestion made in The Secret. The book recommends repeating a mantra that goes as follows, "I am whole, perfect, strong, powerful, loving, harmonious, and happy."

As I focused on these words for a few minutes a day, I thought closely to what each one of them means. I want to share them in case they are helpful to you. In fact, I begin my meditation practice daily with this mantra and try to expand on the words each time so they are meaningful to me.

• As I sit, I begin to think I am whole. I am complete. I am united. I am one. 
• I am perfect. I am perfect today, yesterday and tomorrow. I am in a constant state of perfection in every moment in time.
• Then I continue with I am strong. I am strong in my mind, emotions, body, and spirit.
• I am powerful in mind and body. I am powerful to choose my own happiness and make my own decisions that are the best for me.
• I am loving towards myself and my neighbor. I show honor and respect to myself and the people around me.
• I am harmonious in my mind, body and spirit. I am harmonious with the people around me and the nature around me each day.
• I am healthy. My mind and body grow and heal and develop naturally so my body can continue to heal itself. I added this one because I believe we all strive for perfect health. 
• I am happy. I choose to be happy in this moment and in the future. I practice the art of allowing and choose to be happy regardless of my circumstances. If I feel resistance towards anything, I can turn the other way and make a new choice.

I listen to these words daily and they help me connect with my inner-self more closely so I can hear the voice of my intuition and spirit speaking me. I've learned and continue to learn and hear this voice more strongly each day as it guides me to greater stages of perfection and more heightened awareness.

I encourage you to have or grow your meditation practice for all of its fruitful benefits because you can!

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How Do You Process Emotions? 4 Techniques to Try Today

Do you ever go through those frustrating times when you are dealing with internal conflict? I'm assuming we all do. Sometimes something is bugging you, but you just can't figure out what? Other times you know what is bothering you, but you can't quite figure out how you feel about it or if you should do anything to resolve your internal conflict. It can be so frustrating and take so long to get to the bottom of the emotions, if ever. The only thing that is certain is that there is discomfort. 

So, how do you get to the bottom of what you are thinking and feeling? Most of the time if you can just figure out what you're feeling and why, you can make logical decisions to solve your problems. If you can't understand yourself, it's tons harder to solve the problem at hand. After having many conversations and reading books, I've learned a few techniques that help me to get to the nitty gritty of my emotions.

What is Love?

On this St. Valentine's Day, I thought it would be nice to take a slightly more in depth look at the meaning of love. Across cultures and languages, love has a different meaning. In English there's just one word for love, but in Greek there are many words to express the kind of love you are feeling.

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Webster's dictionary defines love as a strong affection for another rising out of kinship or personal ties.

Another description of love says, "Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. It does not dishonor others, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs. Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth. It always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always perseveres. Love never fails." That passage is from 1 Corinthians 13:4-8 in the Bible. Though it is from a Christian book, its meaning rings true across many cultures and religions and is echoed throughout.

Other meanings for love include:

• Eros- the Greek word for passionate love.
• Agape- the Greek word expressing the brotherly love between siblings and parents and children.
• Filia- expresses friendly love.
• Caritas- the Latin word to show brotherly love.

 

 

 With all the different ways we can love, let's take a moment today to reflect in self-awareness and think about who we can love more. Can we show more love to our parents and friends, spouses and children? I'm blessed with lots of agape around me. My parents show me their love. My mentor, Rhonda Shasteen, shows me her sisterly love for me through being my sounding board with her constant support and caring of my well-being. Sometimes I stop in awe of the profound blessing in my life. I'm grateful to have love and aim to share that love with you with each post. Since St. Valentine's Day isn't just about the Eros kind of love, I'm wishing you a very Happy Valentine's Day!

 

 

 

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5 Ways to Grow Self-Love Now

For the last ten months, I have been on a beautiful journey of learning to make new choices of happiness and joy. I've been practicing the art of allowing and learning to lighten up and follow my bliss. All of this practice is in an effort to overwrite long-ingrained pathways of though led by negativity, self-criticism, guilt, and self-inflicted choices of suffering. One day last April, I was exposed to a new way of doing things that could lead to a life of joy and bliss, while manifesting my greatest desires. It has been the journey of a lifetime.

Do you struggle with your self-love and sense of worth? I spent a log of time feeling guilty for choosing to love myself because I believed a lie that loving myself was a choice of vanity. Then I learned there is a difference between vanity and self-love. 

Now that I can distinguish the two things, I embarked on the journey of learning to grow self-love. One way I grow my thought pattern and expose myself to new ways of approaching self-love is through reading a blog completely focused on the subject called the Abundance Tapestry.

Through reading that blog and other things in addition to my own thoughts, I thought I would share a few thins you can do to grow self-love now.

1. Buy yourself a gift. Gift giving is one of the Five Love Languages, so being nice to yourself and buying yourself a gift can increase your self love immediately. That gift doesn't need to break the bank. It can be a chocolate bar or a bouquet of flowers. If you desire, buy yourself something you've had your eye on for a while.

2. Meditate with affirmations. This year I have also started meditating to open the pathways to my subconscious mind and develop my awareness, control of my mind and emotions. One meditation practice I use is to repeat reaffirming mantras. One that I use regularly as presented in The Secret by Rhonda Byrne is, "I am whole, perfect, strong, powerful, loving, harmonious, and happy." It encompasses all things and helps increase your sense of self-love within minutes.

3. Hug someone. Physical touch is another love language, so giving a friend or family member a hug can increase the energy of love instantaneously.

4. Exercise. Exercise increases the calmness of the mind while simultaneously releasing endorphins. Practicing some physical endurance at any level of difficulty is sure fire way to grow your inner sense of love.

5. Listen to your Inner voice and intuition. Finally, the more you practice meditation and quieting the mind, the easier it is to tune into your voice of intuition. That same voice is your best guide because it is the purest most honest voice of love within you. Just ask your intuition questions and meditate on it as you go to sleep, and you will be surprised to see the answers to your questions emerge unexpectedly. Discovering answers grows your sense of self-love and confidence in your true self exponentially.

Give any of these practices a try this week maybe if it is only to make a new choice. I encourage you to grow your selflove because you can!

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